R.A.W. ~ Radically Altered Women
"Boots on the ground “started out as a military term, but has slowly made its way into our general use of idioms. It basically means instead of fighting the war from the top down (air strikes), it will be fought from (below) having troops on the ground.
I love this idiom. I’ve been thinking about it in the context of society and to a much broader extent – our world. Although laws and policies come from the top down (politicians), in actuality, their job is to take their cue from us; your everyday average working, tax paying folk. In other words we would be considered the “boots on the ground” people.
Too many people are at odds with our country’s leadership, our city’s leadership, corporate leadership, church leadership, etc. It’s frustrating to feel like one entity holds all the power, which can override the power of our own voice. We all want to be heard! No one wants to feel put upon by anyone else, least not the “higher ups” so to speak.
This frustration is evident in all the bickering, intolerance, prejudice, Facebook banter and harsh comments. Friends are being separated because of their viewpoints and mature people are reducing themselves to middle school like behavior.
Have we forgotten that we are the “boots on the ground”? We can’t allow our frustrations to override our better judgment. We have the power of our voice and our behavior and our influence. We have the power of unity! Just as the military uses a collective force from the ground to accomplish an objective, which then gives rise to their superiors for the next strategic step, we are figuratively in the very same position. By being the change we want to see, we can influence another person and so on and so. We gather momentum and strength, which speaks to those in charge and influences them as well.
Oh yes, we do have protests that are trying to accomplish the same thing, and they are helpful when they are done maturely, and frustrations are under control. A wise old king named Solomon, wrote a proverb that reads:
One who is slow to anger is better than a warrior, and one who rules their own spirit, better than one who captures a city. (Proverbs 16:32)
#Bootsontheground #slowtoanger #powerofavoice #united #beagoodinfluence
I’d like to thank those of you who gave such wonderful feedback on my previous blog on Mismatched Libidos. Your comments and input made a part 2 necessary.
As I mentioned in my first blog on this topic, Sex can be a difficult subject to talk about. Starting a conversation about it takes courage, trust and vulnerability. The first talk is actually the hardest, but you will both learn how to navigate it once it’s opened up. A great opener is admitting how uncomfortable you feel and then gently forge ahead anyway. It will absolutely be worth it. It has been my experience that just by the fact that you are willing to discuss something that is sensitive and challenging, it affirms your love for each other and for your sex life. (If the truth were told, one or both of you would like to know that sex is important to the other person too). In contrast, many people just avoid it and it lends itself to anger, resentment and rejection, which after a few years can really hurt your relationship. So dive in!
I was happy to hear from women on the physical aspect regarding their desire for sex. One woman shared that her sexual desire for her husband, whom she adored, had all but left her. She thought there was something wrong with her and didn’t feel the confidence to approach her husband about it. She went to an Herbalist who treated her reproductive cycle and her hormones, with some “tinctures and a female tonic”, she felt alive again toward her husband. Her exact words, “It was life changing”. I also had a Neuropathic Doctor, Fayzah Doudak, who has a practice in Dyker Heights, Brooklyn, tell me that she has seen many women helped by taking certain supplemental nutrients. Great news for us ladies!
Lastly, sometimes it just comes down to a matter of personal desires. Meaning that if a woman is perfectly satisfied with having sex once a week and does not see that as an issue, but her husband does, what do you do? It takes a conversation about compromise. Do you remember how in previous generations, mothers would tell their daughters to do their “wifely duties”? Well, this is definitely not about that, so fear not, we are not going backwards! I believe there are things in a marriage that can be helped greatly, by looking for the win-win situation. What could be a compromise that you are both willing to make that is acceptable to each of you? After all, you love each other and want one another to be happy, don’t you? Then why wouldn’t you do whatever you could to bring that about? So, if a wife desires sex once a week and the husband desires it three, then both compromise and agree at making room for it to happen twice a week. The foremost important thing that has to happen is the conversation, no matter how uncomfortable you may feel, you can’t begin to move forward without it.
#sex #sextalks #marriage #inittowinit #desires #compromise #winwin #marriagebuilders #rewardscoaching #lifecoach
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